Anonymous inquired: "i feel like you should get into vixx. i think youd like them a lot especially leo :3"

I…. alkfjdklajd I like LISTENING to VIXX (tho… I’m not super keen on their rapper? idk I DON’T LIKE THE WAY HE DOES IT :/????? It’s like U-Kiss’s Eli; I don’t care for his style, either.)

BUT I DO LIKE /LISTENING/ TO VIXX? I’ve watched their videos (and admittedly laughed a lot at the last ones cos I have no idea WHAT the hell was going on) (Don’t apply logic to kpop MVs omg)

BUT YEAH I LIKE LISTENING? THEY’VE GOT SOME /REALLY/ CATCHY, GROOVY STUFF. The only one who’s name I know is the rapper (I think) (I’m recalling it as Ravi but I could be wrong now oh no) so I’m not sure who Leo isssss but I WILL GO LOOK HIM UP! Cos all I know from VIXX is their MVs so. D: NOT A LOT TO GO ON, ACTUALLY.

But \o/ thank you for the recommendation! omg I like getting recs even though I listen to a lot more than I blog? BUT OBVS my main ~fandoms~ (if you will) are def B1A4, Infinite, U-KISS, 2PM, MBLAQ, C.N. Blue, and Miss A. Cos a lot of the rest I just… know their music and not really THEM. (Sorry, F.T. Island, but to this day, I STILL struggle to figure out who the hell is how) (and l o l Led Apple YOU AND ALL YOUR MEMBER SWITCHES HOW AM I TO EVER LEARN omfg)

Anonymous inquired: "You are... so sweet and perfect and one of the things I love the most about you is that you don't have everything figured out and sometimes you're angry and sometimes you're sad, but no matter what you're kind and awesome. You are just really good at being a real life good person. The end."

I just started crying in the nicest way because this is one of the nicest things anyone has said about me lately and alkfjdlkajfdakdk I don’t have words because I just want to hug you while I weep okay??? alkfjdlkaj unless you don’t want me to get my tears on you then that’s okay.

thank you so so so much for this omg <333 

Anonymous inquired: "obviously you're not okay right now but i hope you feel better soon and remember that we love you here on tumblr<3"

You, Nonny, are super sweet and lovely and I adore you so much right now for that, ahhhhhhhh :3I would happily give you a giant hug right now (which is not to say I would not ordinarily, cos you best believe I’m a hugger but!!!!!)

I’m going to do my best <3 It’s just one of those… need a lot of time situations.

(I hope)

:’( I LOVE YOU GUYS TOO ALFJDLKFJALDKJFALKJ /feeeeels

Anonymous inquired: "Ashlie, are you okay ? <3"

I will say yes, because that’s about as close to the truth as I can give you without going into details I’m not ready to yet go into. <3 But thank you for your concern. I just needed to yell (I say that as if I’m done yelling but I’m not, god I’m not) and I’m sure I’ll wind up telling you guys all the sordid details when I’m ready, because it’s what I do.

<3 thank you though. It made me smile.

Anonymous inquired: "this isn't a joke this was my legitimate thought process as to the first three words that come to my mind upon thinking of you: thumperoo, dustin, nick (idk why I'm obsessed with the men of your life ((past and present)) but it's also funny that I thought of nerdface over your husband whOOPS but cackling)"

BUT WHY /NICK/???? LMFAO

I HAVEN’T SPOKEN TO HIM IN A COUPLE YEARS LMAO THE LAST TIME I SPOKE TO HIM HE WAS TELLING ME AFTER DUSTIN AND I BROKE UP HE WAS DATING ME NEXT EVEN THO I LIVED IN IOWA AND HE WAS MAKING PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE FACEBOOK STATUSES ABOUT ~LETTING GO OF THE BEST THING TO HAPPEN IN HIS LIFE~ AND /MESSAGING/ ME TO SAY YO P.S. MY STATUS IS ABOUT YOU

ROFL

I

WLAJFLDKJFALKJ HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA CRYING

(u make it sound like there’s lots of men in my life too omg)

(bless u Julia why are you like this)

(ugh I am laughing)

(poor Dustin ;A;)

Anonymous inquired: "how do you deal with all the highly sexualized violence/rape of women in game of thrones? what makes you able to stomach the violent images of women being brutalized and treated like that, fully knowing that's not the way it HAD to happen because it's a fictional world, but it's the way the author WANTED the women to be treated? you talk so much about rape culture and yet watch a show that endorses it?"

I mean, I definitely get you on that. It’s a fictional world, certainly modeled after medieval times and the likes, but that doesn’t mean it has to be that way, because fiction. And I suppose you could argue that blah blah because of the medieval settings it’s just a way, but nah, dude, you’re right, that is intentional.

But I think what does make it easier to stomach is that there are a LOT of strong women with power. And I don’t mean, either, women wielding swords and ~kicking ass~ but I mean women like Sansa Stark who use her feminine charm and wiles to stay alive when her entire life is in danger and Catelyn Stark who is a mother, which is traditionally seen as weak~ and feminine~ and submissive~ even though she was the entire brains behind the Stark family (even though let’s be real, just from reading the first book, HBO really did no justice to the character that is Catelyn Stark). You have Cersei Lannister, admittedly an antagonist of the show, but despite the ~dominance~ of men, Cersei Lannister will take NO man’s bullshit and she will get what she wants when she wants how she wants and if you dare to cross her she will fuck you up - and again, not with swords or fighting but because she wields power men dream of.

And in no way am I saying this NEGATES or EQUALS OUT the sexualized violence/rape at all, because nothing does. That still stands, but I guess what I’m saying is the fact that, despite all that going around, these women who use their wits and intelligence and strength and abilities and, yes even their sexuality, and can persevere is REALLY FUCKING AWESOME.

My friend is a lot deeper into GoT than I am. I’ve only read the first book and watched the two seasons (and it’s actually BECAUSE of her that I ever have) and my favorites are typically the females. (There’s some great dudes, too, but the ladies are really my favorites)

Anyway, she has explained a lot of things to me as deconstruction of tropes - deconstruction of the tomboy anti-Princess-Princess, deconstruction of the honorable Knight in Shining Armor etc - and I guess it’s something that I see as fascinating?

Like I suppose the thing is, I do feel it’s okay to like things - even problematic things - if you at least ACKNOWLEDGE it’s problematic and that it’s NOT okay. And it’s also totally okay to not like it at all and to find that you can’t stomach any of the problematic nature. That’s perfectly okay, too! I guess for me, personally, I find redemption in that the main ladies of the series rise above the bullshit thrown their way.

(I’m really bad at explaining this, too, I’m sorry! If my followers have input, because I know there’s a lot of people who also blog about rape culture and still watch GoT who might be able to more eloquently explain things; I guess it just comes down to, though, for me like I said, that there are a LOT of amazing women with power and strength who take these traditionally negative aspects and use them to stay alive and outwit men and stuff.)

(Actually after re-reading this, I want to note that there HAVE been times, too, where I DID have a lot of issues with things. Like, in season 2, Sansa’s perfect ~prince~ is actually a fucking sociopath asshole and everyone knows the pictures of Sansa having been brutalized by Joffrey and it’s PAINFUL and AWFUL and I HATE it and I HATE that people had gifs of it allllll the damn time and I suppose there were probably better ways to show that Sansa has literally been to hell and back and remains this good kind person who cares about others. Because violence isn’t something that SHOULD be used to show a person’s nature in terms of Sansa. But also Joffrey is a gross fucking asshole. and I’m actually not sure what I’m trying to say/explain here except that UGH that really is one of the most painful scenes for me that comes to mind)

Anonymous inquired: "ayyy gurl u look good with out dem' pants. P.S. ur lack of decent salsa sux balls stock up gurl i'm movin in."

GROSS UGLY SOBBING BECAUSE I KNOW WHO U R AND UUUUGGH U R ONE OF MY FAVORITES AND UUUUUUUUUGHHHHH HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

now I’m in a giggle fit lakfjdlkjalkj :/// LMFAOOOOO AUGH

Anonymous inquired: "❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤"

afljdflkjaflkjLKFJDLAFKJDLKJALK

WHO ARE YOU NONNY?!

omgggg

You don’t need to be anonymous, whoever you are. <3 I would love to hug you and talk to you and just lafjdlkjafldjlakjdljdlkj

this really really really made me extremely happy. Thank you. :3 <3

Anonymous inquired: "Have you ever thought of moving out of Texas?"

It’s not much of an option. My husband is in the military, so I’m kind of wherever they send us. I haven’t made up my mind how I feel about it yet. As far as winters go, I escaped blizzards that my friends and family in Iowa and Kansas, where I last lived, were stuck with, so there’s that!

But I hate staying in one place terribly long. I can’t imagine what it must’ve been like for people who grew up in the same place their entire lives. It sounds horrifying and terribly boring.

I’d really like to go up to Washington sometime. Partly because one of my oldest friends lives there, but also because I think it’d be fun.

But the winters sound terrible. :|

I just wanna live around, you know? :3 See different places and travel!

The nice thing about Texas, though, is its proximity to my friends. I’m meeting up with my friend Ernie this summer. I get to go to Disneyland one of these days with Crystal and maybe Kelvin if we can manage it/he stays in the area. If Ama should wind up in the area, I’d be able to visit her, too!

I like to think of the pros. :3 

Anonymous inquired: "What was your opinion on The Onion tweet that called Quvenzhane Wallis a c**t?"

I’m pretty sure I gave my opinion pretty clearly, and it’s not exactly something I’m sure I want to get into right now because I was, and still remain, disgusted.

I’m not sure there’s any other reaction to have?

I was, and remain, disgusted and horrified and outraged. I hate that word. I loathe it. And it should never ever be used on a child. A little girl! A young little girl who was already sexualized all night. A young little girl who carries puppy purses to black tie affairs! And it was horrifying and disgusting enough that they would EVER use that horrible word on a nine-year-old little girl who carries puppy purses.

Because that wasn’t satire. Nothing about that was satire. I don’t know what the fuck that asshole thought he could pass that as - maybe he didn’t; maybe that’s the true horror of it - but it wasn’t anything to be passed off as satire.

But the worst horror was knowing that if Quvenzhane was a white girl, there would have been a bigger deal thrown around. And that’s the thing that left the nastiest taste in my mouth. If she was white, there would be more people throwing shit their way. There would have been an apology right away.

But I don’t know that there’s any other opinion you should have? You don’t use that word. And you definitely don’t call little children that word. She was nine-years-old at the fucking Oscars, living up the life, having the time of her life, and I hope to God she never finds out that it was said. I hope to God she never finds out the gross ways she was made a “joke” so “haha people can laugh at this”. I hope she just remembers being fancy and meeting famous people and that it’s one of the best damn nights of her life until she goes up for another Oscar nomination because she’s a fucking princess.

Anonymous inquired: "I wish you used Twitter or Facebook or something more often. I used to like talking to you but you just disappeared into Tumblr and all this fandom stuff."

alkfjdlkjfa WELL.

I mean. To be fair. I…

Okay I guess the way I use twitter is a lot more like communicating or something. Like texting? I go on twitter to tell myself to go to bed and then strike up conversations with the Brits who are awake at my dawn or something. And I use it to talk to friends I don’t talk to on tumblr or IM or something.

I mean, I’m always around on twitter if you shoot me a tweet - or if you send me a message on Facebook! I talk to a couple friends all the time on Facebook so while I’m not ON Facebook, I’m there for messages? Like. I guess the thing is. I used to use twitter all the time to write about things going on/that I’m thinking/watching and I suppose I reached a point where I decided to stop sending that out into the cybersphere that way, I suppose. I avoid Facebook mostly because it makes me angry. I know I should cull a lot of the people, but it makes me weary to think about and while I don’t always want to read the shit they say, sometimes I still…. like following them?

But you can always talk to me, whomever you are! You can send me asks and tell me you don’t want them public. You can message me on Facebook. You can hit me up on twitter! You can even ask me for my AIM! I… always forget to log into Skype so I apologize about that, but I’m always on AIM if I’m not sleeping.

I’m always available to talk, I promise! <3 I love talking to people. It makes me feel less empty and lonely and I like connecting and being friends. I certainly never intend to disappear (although I’m aware I kind of do; I get caught up in moments and scenes and drown in them until a whole night has disappeared and have no idea how).

But you should always know you can message me and I’ll always be available. I know there’s a lot of people who feel, for whatever reason, afraid to approach people because they don’t want to be imposing/interrupt/rude/etc etc and you should know that is most certainly not the case with me!

I just. Sometimes I don’t have things to say that I think people would care to read about. :3 

Anonymous inquired: "How long have you been living in Texas? How did you meet Dustin? Do you prefer Korean dramas or American tv shows? What is your job? Are you living the life you always dreamed of?"

I sort of had a little squeal and tucked myself deeper into my blanket  burrito because of these questions. :3 I’m saving Dustin for last cos it’s longer~ and I’m rambly, honestly!

Uhm, I’ve been here in Texas since… oh gos the very end of September, I believe? Yes, I came here right at the end of September.

I currently do NOT have a job but I am going to apply to the grocery store a couple blocks away. However, I’m back to writing and I like to pretend that it’s a job. I can do that, right?

I…. hmmm I wouldn’t say I prefer Korean dramas to American tv shows. I’ve watched a lot of them, because being able to stream and download and the fact that most shows don’t go beyond one season makes them immensely easier to watch and keep up with. There’s a lot of things I don’t like about Korean dramas, though, the way there’s a lot of things I don’t like about American tv shows. I hate how American tv shows seem to just go on and on and on and sometimes drag out something to the point you no longer have any feelings for it (here’s to you, Supernatural). But honestly, for the longest time I just didn’t keep up with American tv cos I didn’t have a tv of my own and I didn’t download a lot of tv? Things have since changed, though!

I… I guess I can say I’m not exactly living the life I dreamt of… but that’s not a bad thing? To be perfectly honest, I never quite knew what to dream of. To this day, I still haven’t really got a dream profession. I just want to write. I want to write and force myself to keep writing until I finish something and sculpt it and edit it with love and sweat and blood and tears until I’ve polished it into something I can publish. Something people can read and love and fall asleep holding and maybe filled with characters they might adore and perhaps want to be. I want my words to reach people and inspire them. But I didn’t see myself married until I met Dustin - and strangely enough, everything after meeting Dustin came with perfect ease. I can’t even pinpoint a moment when my thoughts went from “if we get married” to “when we get married” but they did so effortlessly - and he probably started it! In fact, when I pictured myself married, it wasn’t even to someone like Dustin. If anything, I guess I’ve exceeded the life I dreamt of. I’m not working in fast food anymore, I’m back to writing, I’m reading books all the time, I have a husband I love dearly, I have a lot of friends who admittedly do not live near me but are still always there.

I met Dustin in college. His group of friends occasionally overlapped with mine, but he was really… I hesitate to say anti-social. Just really shy? He didn’t go out of his way to meet people and kept to his small groups of friends. In fact, for the longest time, I had forgotten when I REALLY met Dustin - at dinner one day. I was with my friend Elizabeth, and we went to sit at this table with our friend Sarah. Sarah happened to know J.D., a boy Elizabeth and I were then only vaguely familiar with, and apparently Dustin, and she invited them to sit with us. Dustin was SUCH an awkward duck and sort of stood there for a moment, like maybe he was thinking a table by himself would be better?

I, for whatever reason, turned up to him and gestured to the seat beside myself, and said, “It’s okay. I promise I don’t bite that hard.”

:/ I still alfjdlkj cringe over that sometimes and laugh really hard.

We didn’t really see him the rest of that semester and it wasn’t until Elizabeth and I started hanging out in Richard’s dorm room at the end of second semester that Dustin came over and hung out with us a couple times, when J.D. would make him come over. Or maybe it’s just because we were all in Richard’s room being really loud, playing Rock Band. It’s really possible curiosity just lured him over.

We didn’t wind up really talking a lot until second year, when Elizabeth and I could not help but notice that somehow, over the summer, Dustin had like… blossomed. idk it’s like when an awkward teen boy hits puberty? Except we were in college. Anyway he had muscles wand wasn’t quite as pasty pale and alfjdlkfalkj idk I was mega lusty for him, I will be perfectly honest. :|

He was still being a shut in, though, so Elizabeth and I would go wheedle him to come out and play, and, yes, okay there was a lot of flirting involved which is probably how Dustin wound up liking me in the first place.

And it just spiraled from there. There was a Halloween dance where we dressed him as a bunny, the time we made him go to the movies with us to see Zak and Miri Make a Porno (:| that was reallly awk in retrospect), the Pond Scum situation, a text message asking me out (bless him), a fantastic weekend that involved running all over town and a bonfire, and bam. Suddenly he was just… in my life. Unshakable. Like he’d always been there. :3

(now I’m laughing about Pond Scum cos I remember telling Ama and Crystal about her and lajfldja IT WAS MY ONLY REAL /DRAMA/ WITH GIRLS OKAY? and kljflkdja bless U DON’T STEAL BOYS FROM ME OKAY???? >:(!!!!)

Anonymous inquired: "He seems like a really great guy and makes your sister really happy. I hope things work out for her."

:3 He does! I don’t know HOW she always manages to snag guys who like the demon cat and watch things she wants to watch (she got the last boyfriend hooked on Pretty Little Liars) who are always willing to buy things for her and like idk how she does it rofl but

hopefully :3

He needs to get moved to a new department or something idk rofl

POINT IS IT’S NICE TO SEE HER HANGING AROUND WITH A NICE GUY instead of a total asshole once again.

and

yes :3333 same :3

Anonymous inquired: "So, I need some advice. I found my cousin's tumblr. I think my cousin is awesome, and I'm super curious as to how his tumblr's gonna look. (he just made it today.) Is it ok if I creep on him? I don't think I'd want him to see what I post, so I don't know. Help!"

Ack! Moral dilemmas. I want to tell you I’m probably not the best person to ask because from time to time I creep tumblrs, too - and I totally get the whole not wanting them to see what you post. (There’s a reason I don’t post my tumblr url to facebook and why I take most of my problems/contemplations to tumblr rather than there)

If your cousin were to ever post his url somewhere public, you wouldn’t have so much to angst about, because obviously he wouldn’t be trying to keep it a secret.

But if he IS trying to make a secret of it, just think this way: would you be super upset if you knew he was creeping your tumblr? You say you don’t want him to see what you post, so you know, try applying that to him. Does it make you feel guilty as hell? Then maybe you shouldn’t do it.

There’s the option of creating a secondary tumblr. You could post some things there from time to time while keeping the more private things that you’d rather he not see to your other blog.

when it comes down to it, if you’re going to creep, you’re going to creep. If it makes you feel GUILTY, you probably shouldn’t be doing it. And someone whose moral compass doesn’t waver would probably tell you don’t do it because tumblrs can get private and as you already want to keep him from seeing your blog, he may (possibly) feel similar.

But let’s be real. I’m in no place to tell you not to.

However, if you do feel comfortable doing so, you could tell him that you happened upon his tumblr and ask him how he feels about that. Maybe he’s totally cool with it and doesn’t mind you peeking! Maybe he even would understand why you wouldn’t want him to see yours. If he’s bothered, he could change his url and cut you out of there.

Anonymous inquired: "Pikachu! <3 xD"

HAHAHAHA NONNY. LJAFLKDJAK WHY WOULD YOU /DO/ THAT?! lmfao <3

* why i like them Uhm. Hello?! Pikachu! Duh! What’s not to like? He’s loyal and stubborn and kind of feisty and really sweet and is just CUTE. Bonus points go out to Pikachu’s voice, and the way it sort of rasps and cracks when really happy.
* why i don’t l o l don’t be silly.
* favorite episode/scene Oh. Good lord. I’M REALLY BAD AT FAVORITES but I do always back to that early episode where Ash battles Lt. Surge and tries to get Pikachu to evolve into Raichu and he flat our refuses because he doesn’t want to.
* favorite season/movie/arc …..does Pikachu actually have an ARC????
* favorite line OKAY NONNY LET’S BE FAIR THIS DOESN’T EXACTLY WORK OUT DOES IT??? I MEAN. PIKACHU’S LINES ARE KIND OF LIMITED. “PI-KA-CHUUUU.” “PIKA PI???” I’M JUST SAYING. LMFAO.
* otp errrrrm.
* favorite platonic relationships ASH AND PIKACHU DUH no one has a better friendship than those two.
* head canon THIS IS ACTUALLY RIDICULOUSLY ABSURD AND A LITTLE DIFFICULT LOLOL oh goodness WHY DID YOU DO THIS TO ME NONNY? It’s not exactly that Pikachu disliked Ash in the beginning; he knew he wasn’t what the new trainer was looking for, and it’s not exactly like he had any qualities Pikachu wanted. Stubborn, impulsive, and lacking a lot of talent, Pikachu couldn’t have gotten a worse partner. But in time, he came to figure out that while talent was good, friendship was better and Ash cared more for him than he could ever have expected. (omg wtf is this I give up)
* unpopular opinion ????? I… I don’t know D: